Monday, March 21, 2011

Far Away and Near and Close

I'm thinking especially about my Mom today. She is almost 92 and on Saturday had a fall in her apartment and broke her hip. In a few hours she will go 'under the knife' and we are all praying that she will have a successful operation and a good recovery.

Fortunately, for our family my brother-in-law is an orthopedic surgeon and whenever there is something we need to know he helps us to understand the procedures and what is the likely prognosis. He is always wonderful and the family love him to bits. I talked to my Mom last night and she sounded a bit 'high' and very drowsy, but still in very good, if confused, spirits. I am finding it quite upsetting personally this time. She has had other illnesses, but for some reason this one has unnerved me more than usual. This if when it is hard to be in another country across the wide sea. But there are so many things to be thankful for ...

Before my father died my parents made the difficult decision to move from the home that they love to a retirement community in Northwestern Connecticut. And a beautiful place it is -- more like a luxury hotel in many ways. The staff is wonderful and the living facilities are lovely. The thing is that for some people the adjustment is impossible to make happily. But this is not the case for my Mom. She loves living there. She doesn't miss cooking or meal planning or worrying about what the weather might do to the plumbing. My two sisters visit her several times and year -- they live in different parts of the country -- and my brother sees her every week. Last year I was able to visit twice for a couple of weeks each visit. As is typical of her she never wants the staff to contact us if she is ill -- we might worry! Well, tough, Mom! Our family is all over the world and the country. She has heard from everybody and all she asks is that we pray for her -- which of course we all are.

I have been thinking about how different the world is now -- how much smaller. But how much easier it is to be in touch with those people who are important to us. As it happens my sister and dear brother-in-law are on holiday in the caribbean -- but thanks to their i-phones I was able to contact her via FaceBook and her husband was able to let us all know what the problem was likely to be. Within a very short time the whole family knew -- I couldn't get through to her hospital phone for hours she had so many calls! One of the most touching of all FaceBook messages was from a Japanese friend of my sister who is going through all the trauma of that country who sent a message that my mother was in her prayers. Brought tears to my eyes that did ...

The Man asked me if I wanted to go home, but I'm waiting to see what happens. It is possible that she will need to be in a facility for intensive physical therapy and I don't know if my being there would be worthwhile until later on. I didn't think I would be able to get over there this year, but now I think I probably will. I hope that physical therapy will be an option, that she won't be wheel chair bound and have to live in a nursing home, instead of the independent living accommodation she now has. Too much to figure out while an operation is in progress.


  1. Broad, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom and she and you will be in my prayers. I became very aware of this interconnectedness through modern technology when my sister was in hospital recently. Instant communication is such a boon at times like this. I do hope you can visit her when the time is right.

  2. Hope all goes well for your mum (Mom). May she be up and about again without too much trouble. Thinking of you and your mom. Take care.Liz...

  3. You are in my thoughts and prayers as well as your mom. I don't care how old a parent becomes we always worry about them.
    I have a feeling with her independent spirit and attitude, she'll come thru fine.
    I'm happy to hear you can visit her this year. It will mean so much to her.
    My mom was one of a kind and she died at age 87, mind sharp as ever but body giving out. SHe had a heart attack and was exercising some so she could go home. She had another and that was it.
    God bless you for caring so much about your mom.
    Blessings, Barb

  4. Thank you for your kind words and prayers. My mother got through the surgery with flying colors -- the surgeon is very happy. Now begins the hard work, but we all believe she is up to that. I'm thinking the best time for me to see her will be when she is back in her own place and may feel a bit shaky. I believe the usual thing is 2 to 4 weeks in a facility that offers intensive physical therapy. Thank God for Medicare!!!

  5. So glad the operation is safely over, Broad. Prayers now for a good recovery.

    Agree with your comment about Medicare. We in the UK so often don't appreciate how lucky we are to have the NHS with all its faults and failings.

  6. So glad to hear good news of your is tremendously worrying when they are far away.
    My mother at 95 has just had a hip replacement...not, luckily, an accident as your mother had...and has come through rehab as bright as a button, so I hope your mother has the same good experience.


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