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Friday, September 28, 2012

The Times They Are A-Changin'

I'm doing the filming, my friend, Anne, is showing my grandson Sam how to use his fingers! -- about 4 years ago. Apologies for the background noise... Galen is the little boy on her lap.

Sometimes in life it's just all 'go'! It looks as though after much talking about it and nothing happening, my grandson, Sam, aged 11 almost 12 will be coming to live with us for a time. My daughter-in-law is from South Korea and for the past three years the family has been living in that country.

The transition for my two youngest grandsons, Galen, almost 9 and Louis, 5,  has not been difficult. Both boys are now fluent in Korean and Galen is also mastering Chinese. The biggest problem, however, is that Sam has been quietly suffering in silence while being bullied in school.

To be honest, I don't know how well he will fare in an English school. When his father first came to England he had problems with taunts from the village kids and he found the cultural differences difficult. Part of it is to do with the age. When I was Sam's age we moved from a small town in Vermont to a much larger town in Connecticut. It took me a long time to establish friendships and to stop aching for the familiar.

So the plan is that he will come, with his mother, in about two weeks time! We are hoping his mother will be able to visit for about a month before she returns to Korea. It will be the first trip to Europe for both of them.

And while we hustle and bustle around trying to organize everything for them, my stepson will, a few days before Sam arrives, be flying off to Afghanistan for a third tour of duty with the Territorial Army. In the meantime, our youngest son has flown the nest and is now in Vancouver, BC looking for work as well as adventure!

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  1. Sounds like at least you will have plenty of material to post on.

    Good luck, I'm sure things will work out.

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    1. It should be a very interesting year!

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  2. Your hands will soon be full, but you'll also have much to write about if you can find the time.

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    1. Let's hope I'm up to the challenge!

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    1. I'm glad you wrote 'exciting' and not 'interesting'! ;-)

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  4. Hello Katherine:
    it really does sound as if you are having to adapt to a number of fairly major changes in your life at present. A cliché, but we really do suggest that you take one thing and one day at a time.

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    1. It may be a cliché, but it is a very wise one!

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  5. Firstly, the video clip is delightful. There is no doubt that what you are doing is very brave, but I'm sure that your' own experiences, both in moving from Vermont, and then transporting yourself to the UK, will mean you are very alert to the issues he will face. It will certainly be an adventure for you all. I look forward to hearing all about it. J.
    PS best wishes for your stepson and your youngest too.

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  6. G'day Broad. It is a wonderful thing that you are doing. I truly hope Sam settles in ok with you and that he doesn't find school too difficult. I look forward to reading about how it all works out. Take care. Liz...

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    1. I think he will be ok with the school -- to my mind it can't be more difficult that trying to come to grips with a new school and being engulfed by the Korean language...

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  7. The more things change the more they stay the same: family is with your forever. I hope Same finds his place right away! It can be so difficult; good his parents were paying attention to his situation.

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    1. And I'm so glad his mother is coming with him. I think it will make a huge difference.

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  8. Best wishes for your stepson and your youngest.

    Your own experience of changing towns and schools at his age will help you to help him...and how good that his mother is coming to give him, and you, transition time.

    Best of luck.

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    1. We are absolutely over the moon that she is coming. It will make everything so much easier.

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  9. It hurts my heart that he's getting bullied. I hope that it ends soon because there is just too much of that going around these days.

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    1. His parents took him out of school and have been home-schooling him...

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  10. So much seems sad in your life. I ache for you.

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    1. Rob, I don't feel sad -- I feel hopeful and positive that it will work out well. Except for the son going to Afghanistan -- he is very happy to be going -- but that is a worry.

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  11. I was bullied too, simply for being a head taller than everyone else, but it ended when I transferred to an all girl school at the age of 11. Which is Sam's age now. I feel so bad for him, stuff came back to me when I read this. I remember Sam from earlier this year when you wrote about him. I hope it works out so that he can stay and be happy. Kids can be so cruel. I wish all the best for your sons as well. It must be difficult to have one son in a war zone and another one half-way across the world.

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    1. Eleven is such a difficult age. When I was 11 we had just moved to a new state and it was a long time before I was able to settle. Thank you so much for your best wishes -- it is difficult have children so far flung -- but a great excuse for travel (when I can afford it!)

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  12. a challenge thats for sure....
    two bonney lads!

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  13. I hope that Sam is able to settle with you and find friends. I'm sure you will be able to help him adjust to his new surroundings as you are alert to some of the potential difficulties.

    Good luck to your son and stepson as they embark on their very different adventures.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Gaynor.

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  14. Dear Broad, a third tour of duty. I simply can't imagine what this war is like for so many men and women who are doing third and fourth and sometimes even more tours of duty. What fine human beings they are.

    I hope Sam doesn't experience bullying in England. Here in the US, it's a growing problem and there are many articles written about it. Some schools are making real efforts to squash it, but children can simply be so cruel. I hope that Sam will be emotionally able to tell you about it IF it does happen. The fact that his mom is going to come for a month will, I suspect, be really helpful in his settling in.

    You must be excited about all this. Sam, Galen, and Louis are so blessed to have you as their grandmother. Peace.

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    1. It is very exciting, Dee. I wish they could all be here as it's been so long since I've seen them. We saw my step-son the day before yesterday and had a lovely time with him and his Captain. They are so excited to be going. Sometimes it's just not possible to be happy for them.

      Bullying is a problem in England and Sam's father did have problems -- though he was able to take care of the situation himself.

      Many thanks for your kind words, Dee...

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  15. There certainly is a lot going on in your life at the moment, Broad. I remember you posting that Sam might be coming to stay and it's exciting to hear that preparations are so advanced. I take it that he will be entering the first year of High School here? Just think - homework, uniform, sports kit - a real step back into the past.

    All good wishes to your stepson and your youngest. It's hard when families scatter to the four corners of the map.

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    1. Sam arrives with his mother on the 12th of October. What a lot to do! He's never had to deal with school uniforms before -- that should be 'interesting'!

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  16. I cannot watch the video as my connection is too slow. I feel so sorry for the boys with bullying. I never had an easy time at junior school because I was a red head and I always seemed to be the only one ever in my class. It is tough and probably more so for boys as bullying can get quite rough.
    Hope they do well and manage to show the other kids that they are even better than them.
    Have a good week Diane

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    1. You know, I've never understood this thing about being a red head. Not much is made of it in the States -- probably as there are so many there! My youngest son is a redhead and we wouldn't have him any other way. Interestingly he was never bullied or teased about that -- except by his brother, of course!

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  17. I'm betting that Sam will blossom during his time with you. He has a lot to adjust to, but at the same time he gets to reinvent himself (or just be himself) in a whole new setting. I wish you all the best and I look forward to hearing how things go.

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