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Tuesday, October 09, 2012

Kids, Ya Gotta Love 'em ....

For the past 3 days I have been preparing my youngest son's bedroom for my grandson, Sam. My youngest son, Rob is now living in Vancouver with his girlfriend. If and/or when he returns to the UK it is very unlikely he will be living in the family home. So it's not as if he is being ousted from his long-held bedroom -- though we will always think of it as 'his' room, I expect.

I can not believe the state he left his room! For days before he left he claimed he was spending hours of time in his room in order to go through all his stuff and pack it away. HA! The room looked as if a bomb or two had gone off in it! And that was after The Man had cleared some ...

The first thing I attacked was the top of his chest of drawers. Most of it was trash, but a bagful of it was 'stuff he might still want' -- couldn't really see the surface. That didn't take but half an hour to sort out and dust and then empty and pack away the three drawers that were still full of clothes! And to think I thought he'd already done this!

Then there was his desk -- piled high with papers going back three or four years! Mixed in among this lot were candy wrappers, ticket stubs, pocket lint -- and so on. There were also boxes full of papers and bags of clothes to be disposed of somewhere or another. One bag of stuff he had deigned to throw out -- we think. I'll allow him the fact that  he hadn't stripped his bed -- we had to leave a 5 am to get him to the airport on time.

Then I dared to open his wardrobe! Great sense of satisfaction though to see the thing cleared out. I've even straightened out his shoes -- mostly football shoes of one kind or another. And a bag of shoes to throw away -- why oh why can't he actually physically assign stuff to the trash???? By the way -- these shoes were way way beyond repair -- suitable for the dustbin only -- Of course I haven't discussed the TOP of the wardrobe or the bags of posters or the stuff along the side of the wardrobe. Nor have I mentioned the dust or the state of the carpet or the videos and x-box games and and and and ......

So, now I remind myself that it's a good thing the lad has LOTS and LOTS of GOOD points! He is kind and thoughtful and never loses his temper (except with his brother and that doesn't count!). He can cook and he can bake gorgeous brownies and cookies. When I  need him to help me he always does and never complains. When we have dinner parties he serves and clears the table and helps wash up -- without asking and he is always polite and able to have an intelligent conversation. And he is very loving and caring to everyone.

Oh, and one final thing -- he left behind pots of money: First I'm going to count it and then I'll decide what to do with it!


32 comments:

  1. That change should be yours, small reward for cleaning up.

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    1. It should be, but I doubt it will be!

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  2. Thank goodness we only have dogs!
    Mark you, as I am cleaning out the pilar come junk dump ready for the kitchen revamp I am coming across things that have my guilty stamp on them....

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    1. I must admit, cleaning out his stuff, led me to a cull of my own stuff!

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  3. Are you sure your Rob isn't my Tom, in disguise? They certainly seem to have the same room habits!

    What's also nice is that they also share those chatacter traits which make us love them despite their inability to 'clear a room'!

    Bon courage...

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    1. When I confronted him -- on Skype -- he said, in all innocense -- 'really, I don't think it was so bad'!

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  4. Makes you wonder if his girlfriend keeps his stuff in order or uses the change jar to pay a maid. Gotta love them, they're who they are.

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    1. You're right of course! At least I didn't find anything growing!!

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  5. Ha! If it had been me, I would have taken the lot and pitched it. You are definitely entitled to that little bit of change... :-)

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  6. Some time ago I had to clean out my daughter's room. I thought I did a marvellous job of disposing of trash, taking stuff to the Op Shop and generally doing a great job...so I thought. Until my daughter returned and first words out of her mouth? 'I was saving all that for later.' Can't win!

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    1. Good for you, Astrid. I wonder if she'll look after her room better in the future -- probably not!;-)

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  7. G'day Broad. Good on you, sounds like you did a great job of cleaning the room. I also think the money should be your's. Take care. Liz...

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    1. Still considering what to do with it. In all likelihood I'll give in and deposit it in his account -- but there are other possibilities ...

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  8. You could pass the cash onto the next inhabitant of the room as pocket money, Broad. :-) The state of the room doesn't surprise me at all. He's a male, he's young and he had more important things to think about. Well done for being the long-suffering mom one more time....

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    1. That's an idea worth consideration! One of my sons has become surprisingly neat -- a result of living for several years with a girl who he now refers to as a 'domestic nazi'! The other one got sorted out when he was in the military -- they do wonders with slobs!

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  9. Kids. Can't live with them, can't live without them...but you can certainly spend any money they left behind!

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    1. I like your attitude -- and I'm still considering it ...

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  10. That cash would make a lovely welcome present to young Sam from his uncle Rob. Perhaps he could `keep any money he finds in the room`, and you could have fun beforehand re-distributing it into all the newly-cleaned nooks and crannies !

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    1. That sounds an idea -- until considering the possibility of the vacuum cleaner sucking it all up -- or trying to.

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  11. I was just going to say what Rosemary said above. Sam would be happy to get that money as a welcome gift from his uncle.

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  12. Dear Broad, Rosemary's suggestion is a wonderful one! Sam could go on a scavenger's hunt around the room and find all the hidden change. You could hide all of it at once or make this a monthly treat.

    I'm so glad for you and your husband that Sam is coming. Glad for Sam also that he'll come to know and love both of you even more and that he'll come and experience a different culture from what he's used to.

    I wonder if your son will find the culture of Canada different from home. Has he been there before? I've always wanted to see the flower gardens for which Vancouver is famous. I think they are on Queen Victoria Island. Or maybe I have this all confused! Peace.

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    1. Yes! I've been to Victoria -- it is very much like a 'bit of old England' with lots of gardens and a wonderful atmosphere. Unfortunately, I was there on a day trip and didn't have time to see the Victoria Gardens. Victoria is on Vancouver Island ...

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  13. Whenever I set out to clean a room, I always get bogged down in reading whatever books or papers i come across; reminiscing about memorabilia that nobody cares about except me; and every other bloody thing that has nothing whatsoever to do with actually cleaning the room. I usually end up throwing out next to nothing and I just rearrange the filth a bit.

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  14. Oh, a bit of untidiness doesn't matter. Or even a lot of untidiness! Surely there's a piggy bank amongst all the junk which you can put the money in ?!

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    1. Not one piggy bank to be seen anywhere!

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  15. my idea of hell... my other rooting through my old underpants!!!!

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    1. Actually,John, I know what you mean ;-)

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  16. Being a Rob, I read with your post with rapt attention. It seems that we who hold the name in common may be of similar character. May be.

    At least you've earned your reward in all the additional coinage he left; a tip to the cleaning maid. Or something.

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    1. Enough of the 'cleaning maid' bit, Rob ... ;-)

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