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Monday, March 16, 2015

From Not Writing, to travelling, to Mary

The great urge to write, to communicate never really left me as much as I left it! At least I think that is what happened. Maybe it is all part of coming to terms with grief. Partly that, I expect. I am uncomfortable writing about how things make me feel when the feelings are deeply felt. Overall, life really does go on and I don't want to dwell on matters of 'what might have been' or 'if only' -- so I don't.

I am so glad that winter is finally coming to an end. I have been busy making arrangements for The Man and me to go to the States in April. We leave the  Wednesday after Easter and return to the UK three weeks later. The joint memorial service for my brother and my mother will be on the 18th. Throughout the 3 weeks of our stay we will be seeing close family and friends and travelling from Boston to Vermont, to Connecticut, then to Washington, DC before returning north to Cape Cod and then again to Boston to fly back. The Man will do most of the driving!

The trip to DC will be a nostalgic visit. It is where I went to University, where I lived for 17 years and where I met The Man. I haven't been back there since the 1980s. I have not blogged much, if at all, about my life in the Nation's Capital. It was there I did most of my growing up, had my hippy days, made foolish mistakes, had wonderful times and met wonderful people.

Yesterday was Mothering Sunday/Mother's Day here in the UK. I learned something in church that in light of current affairs and our concerns with things ethnic, in particular, I found very interesting. The service yesterday included children in the Parish and the scouts. The vicar asked them how many times they thought Mary, the mother of Jesus, had been  mentioned in the New Testament. The children guessed figures from 'zero' to a thousand, but the one who came closest said '14'. My guess would have been '10'. The correct answer is '12'. Then the Vicar asked how many times Mary had been mentioned in the Koran. Nobody got that right! The answer is '36'! Not only is she mentioned three times as often in the Koran as in the New Testament, there is even a chapter in the Koran (Chapter 19) called 'Mary'. Food for thought...

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  1. I knew she was mentioned in the Koran because I saw them posted at "Mary's House" in Ephasus, but I remember there being much fewer than thirty-six. Of course it's interesting that she's mentioned at all.

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    1. I would love to see Mary's House in Ephasus!

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  2. Have a good visit to the East. There may be a little spring in the air.

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    1. I've personally emphasised the word 'may'! Washington should be ok by then, but New England is always a toss-up as far as April weather is concerned... Once again I am travelling at a time when it's necessary to pack for all eventualities!

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  3. Interesting that the Koran speaks of Mary's life and speaks of her virgin conception of Jesus.

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  4. Now that is very interesting. I didn't know that but it sure makes me think. :-)

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  5. The trip back will be a poignant one and I felt sad when I read of your reason for going. It's hard to put into words. Have a safe journey and yes it is good that Spring is on the way. The winter doesn't go on for ever. Take care x

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    1. Thank you, Molly. Like the weather, the trip will be one of mixed blessings!

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  6. That is very interesting about Mary.
    It will be strange to return after all this time - my goodness, I wonder how it will strike you!

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    1. I saw pictures of my old neighborhood just a few years ago and was amazed at how little it had changed. But I suspect to see a big change in security measures as well as the downtown area. I actually lived in the city, but for this visit will be staying with friends in the Virginia suburbs.

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  7. So sorry to hear of the recent sadness in your life, the loss of loved ones.
    Life has a habit of throwing at us one thing after another, as if to test us, such is my experience.
    I hope you enjoy your trip, however sad part of it must be.

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    1. As I said above, it will definitely be a trip of mixed blessings...

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  8. It's hard to write about sadness and difficulty while still working one's way through it, especially if one is an introvert who needs to keep the ideas inside in order to engage with them. I hope your travel goes smoothly so you can focus on meanings and memories and healing.

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    1. Thank you, Nancy. Your thoughts are much appreciated...

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  9. You are dealing with double grief; and nothing is experienced over and over as grief is. We are never truly free of that. Though, we try to find things to distract us and help us for a while think of all that needs done. My deepest sympathies.

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    1. Thank you Rosaria. I very much appreciate your comment. Life does go on and it's best to 'go with the flow' as my mother often said...

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  10. Grief is very personal and how we come to terms with it is very individual, There's no right or wrong way, Broad. I hope you and the man have a really good trip, both the service and also revisiting your youthful haunts, preferably in springlike weather.

    I'd read that about Mary in the Koran, but had never seen the figures. I suppose we could add in the times Mary is simply referred to as Jesus' mother to even things up a bit.

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    1. Thank you Perpetua. Overall, I am looking forward to the trip and the chance to see so many people that I care about, but also because it will help to bring some closure. I so hope the springlike weather is there to welcome us!!

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  11. Food for thought indeed and the kind of fact that should be well advertised in school assemblies - somehow we have to get past this terrible time of wars and rebellion and perhaps starting in school is as good a place as any.

    I do hope your time in the States helps you through what has obviously been a difficult patch in your life. I have visited most of the places you mention because my husband and I have been on holiday many times in Canada and the States. Our holidays are now mostly in the UK but we have so many happy memories of the other side of the pond. Do enjoy your stay

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    1. Thank you so much, Weave! The older I am the less I appreciate the opportunities for long-haul travel. I am so blessed to be able to make these trips from time to time. But lately, I find the the preparation and planning more and more stressful. Trips around the UK and Europe are much less fraught for me.

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  12. Sorry to hear about your recent losses, and hope that your travels uplift you. So what I am doing is..........Vx

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    1. Thanks, Vera. What you are doing is --- just amazing!

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    1. I think so, too, John. Thanks and many many congratulations and many best wishes. XX

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  14. I'm sure this coming trip will be hard for you both,but hopefully will contain some happy memories and times for you to be with people who share your grief. Take care jx

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    1. I am sure there will be many happy memories. And I am really looking forward to being able to spend time with my two sisters! Thanks, Janice!

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  15. Enjoy your visit, although the it will I'm sure be a bittersweet one. May you find comfort from sharing your grief with loved ones and from taking a trip down memory lane. There will be so many happy memories as well as poignant ones. Deal with them both as best you can.

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